I've come to see this love of mine has little
 to do with you.  My own capacity
 it is.  I am the stove, you only the kettle.
 If there is magic, the magic is in me.
 Like a Hollywood set, you were just attached
 to fortify illusion.  The things I saw in you
 were already alive in me.  You were a match.
 The bonfire was my heart.  And how it grew!
 Rumi charmed us both with this advice:
 When love offers her kisses, you must act.
 Only total surrender will suffice.
 And what is given always will come back.
 Thus have I gained from what I thought I’d  lost,
 for love goes with me and does not count the cost.